Chinese Valentine's Day is here again.
The streets are full of so-called "Chinese Valentine's Day exclusives", and the posters posted in shopping malls are just about to hit you in the face. In fact, we all know in our hearts that when it comes to gifts, what we choose is not just the items, but the heart hidden in them. However, the human heart is like being separated from the belly, and it is precisely the most difficult thing to guess, estimate, consider, and gain insight into.
When I was 20 years old, giving anything as a gift was both wrong and right.
Students who are not financially well-off spend the money they have saved for two months to maintain their living expenses to buy a pair of AJs, or they choose to skip school and queue up to buy limited edition figures. At that time, I thought in my heart that love meant "giving you everything I have". Even if it was just a self-made photo album that was indescribably ugly, I would burst into tears. What you are giving is not a simple gift, but the vanity and uncontrollable love that you want to declare to everyone. Tickets for escape rooms and tickets for concerts, and experiencing screams and fear together. In fact, my palms are covered with sweat. Love in that period focused on "personal presence".
20 years old: Give you fragments of the entire universe
When you reach the age of 30, nothing is better than giving "blood back".
After working overtime late at night, I came home after squeezing the subway and my face was already broken. At this moment, if you give her a bouquet of flowers, she may smile and express her gratitude, but then she turns around and puts the flowers in the vase and forgets to change the water. But if you give a bottle of Helena Black Bandage, or a set of La Mer, the situation is completely different. This means telling her: I know that you are very tired, and I know that you are working hard for this family, so I want to help you restore the skin that has been worn out by life bit by bit. Apple Watch can monitor heart rate, and Fitbit can record sleep. What is given is not just a watch, but the concern of "I want to know if you are doing well." Love at the age of 30 is full of heartache and the weakness hidden in pragmatism.
30 years old: The gift is armor, but also a weakness
What about 40 years old? Instead, I started giving away “useless” things.
Burberry's swan scarf, Chopard's ice series jewelry. When I reach this age, I already have a deep appreciation for daily necessities, and I begin to think about getting back some sense of "us". The scarf is not for keeping warm, but when you tie it around your neck and walk in the wind, you will feel that you are still the girl you used to be. The watch is not used to tell time, but when the two of them sit side by side and raise their hands, they can see the same time flowing on each other's wrists. What I am sending you at this time is a sense of decency and a sense of ritual to fight against the dull years together.
40 years old: The gift is dignity and the side-by-side gesture
As for turning 50…
When you bring a massage chair home, whether it is Rongtai or Panasonic, the massage chair actually does not massage the shoulders and waist, but to express "you have worked really hard in your life." Bird's nest and donkey-hide gelatin are not for the body, but for the greedy heart of "I hope to live with you in good health for several more decades." Even if it's a quick trip, you can visit ancient castles in Europe or watch the sunset on the islands. At this time, you no longer have to rush to the scenic spots. You can hold hands and move forward slowly, as if you are catching up on a belated honeymoon. Love at the age of 50 is companionship and being so cautious that I am afraid that you will leave before me.
Actually, having said so much, there is something quite interesting.
Data provided during this year's Chinese Valentine's Day shows that the number of young people buying gold has increased. "Golden flowers" have replaced flowers. The post-95 generation has begun to hoard gold banknotes engraved with the words "Princess, please make a fortune". You see, even romance is starting to focus on cost-effectiveness. Those who claim that "the mind is most important" eventually discover that the mind must have a place to store it. Boys began to receive gifts, and the number of people searching for "Chinese Valentine's Day boyfriend gifts" was three times more than the number of people searching for "girlfriend gifts." Perfume, razors, and even pet supplies have become hot items.
To put it bluntly, this festival is not just about Valentine's Day. It is about using the name of the festival to say "I care about you" to the person you love, or even to yourself as an individual.
Don't send it too early, and don't send fake goods. Don’t always send the same items. But don’t think too complicatedly, thinking that it must be bankrupt before it can be called love. Consumption data has shown that the current trend is indeed "pragmatic romance."
When choosing a gift, you still have to ask your own heart in the end.
Do you really have the idea in your heart to experience new and interesting things together, do you desire to give the other person real and considerate care, or do you want to regain the passionate emotions of the past, or do you intend to convey your deep attachment and dependence in the long days to come. In fact, the gift is just an excuse, and the words you really want to say in your heart are the most important content that should be heard by others on the day of Qixi Festival.
May the person you want to send it to understand you.
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