Why.
It’s the Chinese Valentine’s Day again, and every year at this moment, the streets are filled with boys holding flowers, with expressions on their faces that look like “I’ve finally completed my mission.” The screenshots of lipsticks, bags, and transfers posted in WeChat Moments, and even the captions are almost the same.
It’s unclear when this festival, which is related to the Milky Way, Watching, and the annual reunion, evolved into a large-scale assembly line operation venue.
You must have noticed that those so-called "standard answers", such as flowers, perfume, and engraved necklaces, are yes, very safe, but also... very perfunctory. They seem to be saying: Look, I didn't forget that today is Chinese Valentine's Day. But that's all.
Is it really the same thing that she lacks?
In fact, you know in your heart that the girl holding hands with you never lacks that lipstick on her dressing table.
When you handed her the gift, she smiled. However, what you are more eager to witness is the moment when your eyes light up, the exclamation of "How did you know!", the moment when you are touched and unable to speak for a long time, and can only hug you tightly.
Gifts are not the items used to fill her life, but when you finally say the words "I want" that are hidden deep in her heart.
Those "careful tips" hidden in ancient poems
Assuming this is the Chinese Valentine's Day, can we try to carry out some unique activities? For the time being, don’t always fixate on the windows of shopping malls, but turn to read those poetry books. Hidden in them are the most advanced romantic feelings of the Chinese people that have accumulated over thousands of years.
Give her a "personal" secret
Don't always think about giving something called Chanel No. 5. It smells like Marilyn Monroe's pajamas, not her own.
Looking for a craftsman who makes traditional sachets, not the ones sold on Taobao for 9 yuan with free shipping, but the ones that are truly made according to ancient recipes.
I would like to ask if she has not been sleeping well recently? Therefore, they pretended to use Albizia julibrissin and Baiziren which have soothing effects. Ask her if she has been shouting and tired lately? Then take some refreshing Atractylodes and Patchouli.
The stitches don't need to be too tight, and tell her: "This is an item that women tied on their elbows and arms in the past. It's called a '剉'. Now I tie it on you, and it will carry my feelings with me no matter where I go."
Comb, not just for combing hair
"One comb to the end, two combs to the white hair reaching the eyebrows."
We have heard this saying 10,000 times in costume dramas. However, when you actually take out a wooden comb, gently hold her long hair, and slowly comb it down, the feeling is different.
The hair was scratched by the teeth of the wooden comb, making a rustling sound. This sound is gentle. It's not as urgent as the sound of a plastic comb. It's not as soft as the sound of an air cushion comb.
Choose a good comb, one made of horn or purple sandalwood. Tell her that from now on, every morning when she feels sleepy and doesn’t want to get up, she will use this to wake her up. This is called "hair knotting", also known as "entanglement".
Write an off-key poem by hand
Don't copy those "Mountains have no edges, the sky and the earth are united" online. They are too heavy for modern people to carry.
Don’t send messages on WeChat either. WeChat messages are too easy to get lost in a bunch of work groups and takeaway red envelopes.
Find a piece of rice paper with a rough texture, or a nice-looking letterhead. It doesn't matter if the handwriting is ugly, you can write slowly.
What to write? Just write something about her that suddenly comes to your mind. for example:
It was raining today, and when you ran over, your bangs stuck to your forehead, like a cat that was still laughing silly despite being soaked in the rain.
When writing the signature, don't write something like "Love you so-and-so", but write a date, or write a place, specifically a certain month and year, the time or place after a certain meeting.
This is called a love letter, also called evidence.
Don’t mistake “surprise” for “fright”
Many, many people have a wrong understanding of the meaning of surprise. The surprise is not that you suddenly took out an item and she never mentioned the item she wanted at all, but that you always remembered the thing she wanted.
You've booked that hard-to-find restaurant she's been talking about for three months.
She tried on that skirt over and over again when she was shopping, and finally pouted at the tag and put it down, but you bought it back.
There are a lot of tutorials on her phone that she wanted to learn about knitting bracelets, but you clumsily learned how to knit a crooked bracelet for her and gave it to her.
You see, in the final analysis, it’s still the same old truth: have a heart.
It wasn't that I had the intention to remember what day it was, but that I had the intention to see her as a person.
So, the thousand words written here are actually just one sentence:
This Chinese Valentine’s Day, don’t be that “good boyfriend” who only queues up at the checkout counter to pay.
Be that "idiot" who makes her eyes turn red the moment she opens the gift.
The gifts will get old and the money will be spent, but the heartbeat of that moment can be remembered for a lifetime.
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