In fact, the "Chinese Valentine's Day gift list" that fills the screen is quite boring.
Those "six most romantic gifts", chocolates, bags, cosmetics...
Like a standard answer for assembly line production.
But love, how can there be any standard answer?
Are you giving a gift, or a "wooing resume"?
Really, don’t rush to open Taobao yet.
Think about it carefully, why do boys collectively suffer from "gift-giving anxiety" when Valentine's Day comes?
Because of fear. I'm afraid of being said to have a straight aesthetic, afraid of being compared, and afraid that I won't be pleased after spending money.
As a result, everyone unanimously selected the most appropriate option without any discussion. This option was either the so-called "hot model" that was repeatedly and strongly recommended by marketing accounts until it became a flood, or it was a well-known big brand that was so expensive that it made people feel distressed but had no inherent vitality or unique creativity.
What are you giving? Is it an object that she likes, or is it a resume that you hope she will think you have the characteristics of money, taste, and hard work?
Clues hidden outside the shopping cart
I deliberately looked through the experiences of those who have experienced it online, and found that it is actually very simple.
She said, “My neck has been so sore recently” and she may need a cervical massager more than roses.
When she was watching videos, she always watched people making clay pots. Maybe she felt itchy in her heart and wanted to play in the mud with you.
She always complained that she was tired of eating takeout. Even if you just cooked a bowl of noodles, the presentation would be extremely ugly. I could guess the copy of the post on WeChat Moments: "Even though it tastes terrible, it was made by someone personally."
A gift should be evidence that you understand her, not a receipt for swiping your card.
Don’t make “self-moving” disaster blockbusters
I must say this, a lesson learned in blood.
She lacks love for sports, but you give her a fitness ring; her skin is sensitive, but you give her "lady-level" strong drug skin care products; she has made it clear that she hates pink the most, but you give her a bouquet of death Barbie pink roses.
This is called "self-impression" gift giving.
You think she will notice your efforts, but in fact she will only see your perfunctory performance. After all, you don't even bother to spend a few minutes to get to know her a little bit.
Don't give her something that "increases her workload".
For example, if a rare potted plant needs careful care, your relationship will definitely die in the end.
The nirvana trick for handicap gangsters: package "me" and give it to her
What should I do if I really don’t know how to choose, or my budget is really limited?
In the content called "Qixi Happiness Handbook" on Baidu Encyclopedia, there is a trick that is extremely cruel and effective at the same time - package yourself and give it to her.
I'm not asking you to dig into the express box.
It's about turning yourself into what she likes.
She likes cleanliness, so you tidy up the messy room, spray it with her favorite perfume, and then wait for her return.
She has been under a lot of pressure recently. You have to deal with everything in advance and book a nearby B&B that she has been talking about for a long time but has never been to, even if it is just for one night.
Jewelry is not meant to "trap" her
I know that many boys like to give jewelry as gifts, thinking that "bauches" can cure all kinds of diseases.
But if you give a ring as a gift, don't have the mentality of "this is a trap for you."
Very stupid.
The meaning of jewelry does not lie in the metal ring, but in the moment you choose it. All you think about is how she will look after wearing it.
The coordinates of your first date are engraved on the inside of the necklace.
It's her name secretly engraved on the back that you can't see.
In fact, what girls really want is to "be seen"
If you look at the answers that received high praise, there are hand-made wool felts, even though they are extremely ugly and abstract, there are memorial books filled with a lot of nonsense, and there are also printouts of chat records that record the time you met until now.
Are these things worth anything? not worth.
But this is what girls do.
Because that proves that time passes and you remember everything.
The ultimate question: Are you willing to spend time for her, or just spend money?
It’s the easiest way to spend money, just move your fingers and you’ll be done in two minutes.
It takes time.
Spend time paying attention to her joy, anger, sadness, and joy, spend time thinking about her unspoken wishes, and invest your energy in creating a moment that, even if it is a little clumsy, belongs only to the two of you.
On the Chinese Valentine's Day, the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl only meet once a year, separated by the Milky Way.
How lucky you are to be by each other's side.
Don’t let that hard-earned expectation turn into a cold express box.
A gift just because you love her.
It's not because you're afraid of not being able to make it through the holidays.
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