To be honest, my mother-in-law is also my mother
In fact, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is quite delicate.
I have been calling "Mom" for so many years, but sometimes I feel like there is something inexplicably between me. It's not like your mother, who can talk back and lose your temper without any scruples, and then act like a spoiled brat as if nothing happened.
But mother-in-law is different, she has to be polite, considerate, and measured.
Until that day - her birthday.
I saw her secretly put the cherry with the word "Longevity" written on it into my bowl. There was still a little cream stuck to the edge of her own bowl, and she didn't wipe it off, just watching us eat with a smile on her face.
I suddenly felt like crying.
At that moment, I realized that no matter how words of blessing or words that seemed auspicious, they were not as weighty as a cherry like this.
Why saying "thank you" works better than "I love you"
Searching for birthday wishes for mother-in-law online, all are templates.
"Blessings are like the East China Sea, life is as long as the southern mountains." This is not wrong, but it is too correct, as correct as the kind of group text messages.
"You are the peony in my heart." Who would believe this, not even my mother herself. She was in contact with oil fumes in the kitchen every day, so how could peonies appear?
I browsed more than a dozen Internet pages and noticed that everyone was copying and pasting roughly the same statement. For example, years are wasted, such as beauty disappearing, I became absent-minded while reading.
Until, I saw a very simple sentence, that is, "Thank you for always helping us take care of our children. It's so hard.".
That's it, it's true.
Those who post on Moments are actually doing it for themselves.
Many daughters-in-law will post on WeChat Moments on their mother-in-law’s birthday.
As for the accompanying pictures, one part is a cake, another part is a screenshot of a red envelope, and the other part is a family photo. The copywriting is quite beautiful, such as "the most beautiful mother" and "the best mother-in-law".
But to be honest, how many mothers-in-law know how to read WeChat Moments? They may not even like it.
My mother-in-law won't go to see it. She will just quietly ask my husband when no one is around, asking me what I meant by what I posted today. Do I dislike her for being old?
Later I stopped posting. Just call or talk in person.
Once, I said something like this, "Mom, you look really energetic in this red dress today." Then she was very happy. This happy state lasted for a whole week, and she told anyone she met about it.
How much should the red envelope be? This is a gift proposition
Someone in the search results asked how much red envelope should be given to my mother-in-law for her birthday.
Some people say 666, six or six are smooth.
Some people say 888, fafafafa.
There are also those who say 1001, pick one out of a thousand.
In fact, no matter how much you pack, your mother-in-law will not actually spend it. In the end, you still have to save it, and when you buy a house or replace a car, you can take it all out at once.
So the number is not important, what is important is that you have to pack it.
Once you do it, she will feel that you care about her. If she didn't, she would feel that her daughter-in-law's pain was in vain.
To be honest, some of the blessings are really embarrassing.
Look at those online -
"Time depicts your gradually silvering hair..."
Please, my mother-in-law is only in her fifties, where does the silvery white come from? Her hair was just dyed.
Others say, "You are the most important mentor and role model in my life."
tutor? My mother-in-law doesn't run training classes.
The most outrageous ones are those with mixed English: "Haipi Bai Shi Te Tu You".
It sounds like a curse when pronounced.
If my mother-in-law heard me saying this, she would definitely be confused: "What did you say? What's so tacky?"
In fact, all my mother-in-law wants is one sentence
Last year for my mother-in-law’s birthday, I didn’t post in Moments or send any red envelopes.
After dinner in the evening, I put away the bowl and asked her to go to the living room to watch TV.
She refused and insisted on rushing to wash with me.
I said: "Mom, you are the birthday girl today, please rest."
She froze for a moment, then smiled.
That smile was different from usual, and his eyes were a little red.
Later, when I entered the bedroom, I heard her muttering to her father-in-law in the living room: "This girl's pain is not in vain."
See, she called me "daughter."
Not a daughter-in-law, but a daughter-in-law.
At that moment, I suddenly realized that the most beautiful blessing sentences are never born through writing, but are created through practical actions.
So today, if you also want to wish your mother-in-law a happy birthday
Don't copy those clichés from the Internet.
Think about what she likes to eat, what colors she likes to wear, and what TV shows she likes to watch.
Give her an item of clothing that's out of her range, or just accompany her to watch two episodes of a show she's passionate about, even if you feel like it's tacky on the inside.
Say: "Mom, you have worked hard this year."
Stronger than anything else.
real.
After all, mother-in-law is also a mother.
It's just that mom, you need to be sincere when you say it.
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