In the innermost part of the drawer, a yellowed plastic bag was found.
There were several teeth the size of millet grains, which were white to a bit gray in color. There was also a bunch of lanugo hair tied with a red rope. Its soft appearance was just like catkins in early spring.
I don't dare to touch it.
That's my son's.
He is already in junior high school, his voice has changed, his Adam's apple has protruded, and he won't let me kiss him anymore.
These things have been lying in plastic bags for more than ten years, and I actually forgot about them.
Our generation's love for children is sometimes as rough as sandpaper.
As the old saying goes, you should throw your upper teeth under the bed and your lower teeth on the roof for good luck, hoping that your new teeth will grow neatly.
But what about throwing it away?
The happy and sad emotions were also thrown away together.
This is what my mother-in-law did many years ago. She kept mumbling something while throwing her son's baby teeth towards the roof of the tiled house.
I stood nearby, feeling empty.
It seems that what was thrown away was not a tooth, but the afternoon when he was nursing in my arms.
Is it really necessary to preserve deciduous teeth and fetal hair?
real.
Especially necessary.
There is a word in psychology called "transitional object."
To put it bluntly, it is those things that allow you to grasp the past.
It is not an object, it is a handle of time.
Without this handle, the memories are scattered, like mercury spilled on the ground, and you can't find them again.
How to save it?
Continue to use plastic bags?
Twenty years later, your child will ask you, "Mom, these are my teeth from childhood. Why do they stink?"
The simplest DIY method for baby teeth
It's really not difficult.
All you need is:
Crystal Epoxy AB glue is available in sets online for tens of dollars.
Silicone molds , heart-shaped, star-shaped, small cubes, whatever.
Also, an afternoon when I don’t want to look at my phone and just want to be with my children.
Handmade steps: time machine in glue
The first step is to process the materials and soak the teeth in hydrogen peroxide to achieve the purpose of disinfection, otherwise they will turn yellow and even stink in the future.
The fetal hair should be washed and dried without any moisture.
This is a delicate task. Children may make trouble next to you. Don't worry, let them get tweezers to help you pick up your hair.
His hands are shaking, but his eyes are bright.
The second step is to adjust the glue, stir the AB glue evenly according to a specific ratio, and continue stirring in the same direction at a slow speed until it becomes transparent, just like stirring a clear water.
You can play some music at this time, or you can play nothing at all and listen to the shouts of the bean curd sellers outside the window.
Children always keep asking "Is it okay?" At this time, you have to say "It's coming, it's coming, wait until the bubble disappears."
For the third step, which is sealing, first pour a layer of glue into the mold, and then carefully place the teeth and tires in, and arrange them accordingly.
Slowly, pour in the remaining glue.
Watching the glue slowly engulfing those little things at that moment, it seemed as if all time had been put into a closed state.
Then there's the waiting.
Wait 24 hours, wait for it to cure, wait for a miracle.
What is the best way to seal your child’s deciduous teeth?
In fact, there is no "best", only "most attentive".
Some people like to use a transparent glass bottle to make the fetal hair disk into a small circle, just like a piece of amber, and place it on the bookshelf. When the sunlight shines over, you can see the luster of each hair.
Some people especially like metal pendants, which can be made into necklaces or keychains by inlaying teeth into them, so that their children can always carry them with them.
Whether it's called "taking money into the treasury" or talking about warding off evil spirits and bringing good fortune, in fact, the idea is to make those blessings that cannot be seen become tangible.
I made it into a rubber square , like the crystal ball I played with when I was a kid.
However, what was sealed inside was not fake snowflakes, but the teeth that my son had actually grown in, and the hair that his son had actually cut off.
The true meaning of handicrafts
It’s not about saving money, it’s about “being present”.
The wonderful thing about parent-child crafts is that it is not done by adults and watched by children.
It’s not about children playing and adults checking their phones next to them.
It is two people facing the same thing together .
While adjusting the glue, my son accidentally dropped the glue on the table and hurriedly took some paper to wipe it. In the end, the more he wiped it, the more it became messy.
I laughed and so did he.
He said, Mom, when I was a child, I had very little hair, just like that little old man. I said, you have a lot of hair now, like a hedgehog.
At that moment, we are not "making crafts."
We are standing side by side, looking at the little man who has disappeared. We are on this side of the river and have transcended the limitations of time. We wave our hands towards him who has disappeared from our sight on the other side of the river in the past moment.
The most stressful time is when removing the mold.
I'm afraid it's not dry enough, I'm afraid the shape will be damaged.
When I pushed the small, crystal-clear square out of the mold, my son said "Wow" next to me.
He held it in his hand and looked at the lamp for a long time.
Then he said: "Mom, give this to me."
I was stunned for a moment and said yes.
In fact, I was shouting in my heart: Those are mine, those are my memories.
But then I thought about it, that’s not right.
This was originally his.
That past that belonged to him, his growth process along the way, and the childhood days that he had planned to forget, but was held tightly by my glue.
I gave it back to him, as a matter of course.
From baby teeth to pendants: the transformation of children’s growth symbols
Now I have the rubber keychain he made hanging in my bag.
Colleagues saw it and some said it was so cute. What is this?
Some said hey, it’s a bit scary.
I smiled and didn't explain.
This is a secret between me and him.
Sometimes, when I feel bored during a meeting, I hold the small square and gently rub the tiny tooth inside with my thumb.
It's so small, so hard, yet so soft.
I will remember that when he was four years old, his teeth became loose and he started to bleed when he chewed an apple, which made him cry out in fear.
I hugged him and said, don't be afraid, you are growing up.
It turns out that growing up is a bloody thing.
And maternal love is to collect the blood, the pain, the smiles, and the moments that can never come back, a little at a time, wipe them clean, and then make them into a talisman to hang in your heart.
Creative ways to preserve baby’s baby teeth
There are tons of tutorials online.
Someone ground the baby teeth into powder, mixed it with paint, and painted a picture.
Some people braid fetal hair into red rope and make it into a bracelet.
There are still people who paste the teeth they lost each time on homemade tooth cards in order, just like plant specimens, writing down the time and place.
I have a friend who is even worse.
She mixed her daughter's fetal hair into clay and made a little person.
That villain is not refined, even a little ugly.
She said this was what her daughter looked like when she was just born, wrinkled but full of life.
You see, as long as you want to keep it, there are always more ways than regrets.
Stop throwing it away.
real.
Those little teeth and thin hair are a part of life separated from your body.
They used to nurse in your arms, sleep peacefully on your pillow, and toddle in your hands.
They are your child’s childhood.
Spend an afternoon with your children and put these fragments of time together into a whole.
The process may be hectic, you may fail and try again, and it may not be as beautiful as what you sell online.
But so what?
That small object that carries the warmth left by your hand, and may not be perfect, will say the words that you can never say on your behalf:
"Son, please slow down and grow up. Mommy hasn't seen enough yet."
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